Coping at Christmas

For some, Christmas and the festive period is a time of joy, but for others, and perhaps for you, this time of year can be a great challenge. ❤️

Feelings of loneliness, sadness, grief, anxiety, and anger are emotions I hear clients grappling with during this season, as well as fear and disappointment.

Not everyone’s circumstances are such that the festivities can pass by without a scratch, and if this is something you experience, I am here, and I hope this post helps.

Firstly, please remember that no matter how lonely you feel, you really are not alone. I am here, and so many other professionals are too. Moreover, perhaps you can lean on the friends or colleagues that you trust - just because you may not have before, or it feels scary, doesn’t always mean you can’t. Use your judgement, always, but sometimes gently challenging yourself when it feels possible can reap great rewards. 💕

Next, remember that the time will pass - just like waves on the shore. The festive period comes and it goes, and soon life with return to normal. I also say this because, for some, the lack of routine and immense change over Christmas can feel too overwhelming, so doing your best to remind yourself that this won’t be forever can sometimes take the edge off... Even if only a little.

Lastly, and perhaps most importantly, please take care of yourself as best you can.

Whether that looks like getting up earlier each morning to have some time for you - maybe to take a bath or shower in peace, to meditate, or even to sit quietly with a cuppa. Alternatively, maybe you need more sleep, or more time with loved-ones. If so, have a think about how you might be able to make that happen - whatever you need, try to make time and space for it. 🙂

In my experience, it’s amazing how powerful putting yourself first, even if just for 15-minutes a day, can be.

Ultimately, I hope you are able to find some enjoyment this Christmas.

As always, if you feel stuck or are struggling, please reach out. I will be working a little over Christmas, responding to enquiries at least twice per week, from 22nd December until 5th January, before returning to normal.

If the support you need feels more urgent, I would encourage you to call one of the organisations here.

With love, kindness and compassion,

Abby 💖